Like with all things sibling related, there are no hard and fast rules to this question. It is so dependent on you, your children, and, let’s face it, the space in your home! Similarly, there are a few situations that may mean that separate rooms are no longer a choice. Ultimately, you need to take into account your children’s personalities, age, sex and relationship to decide when you should make the move.
As much as we all hope that our darling children will be best buds, unfortunately personalities can clash, and so for that reason separate bedrooms might be needed to try and keep the peace, at least at night-time. Separate rooms, unfortunately, do not help when it comes to TV remote wars!
As you know, every child is unique, much like a snowflake, except louder and messier. So, whilst one of your children may love noise and late-night chatting, another may be more retiring and need their own space. Or, one child is neat and tidy whilst the other simply needs to take a step before the floor around them is swimming in toys!
If this is the case, you may find that separate rooms help, allowing them to express their own individual personalities, without attacking each other. This also means that they will be in full control of the décor of their room, able to decide on the theme, the colour and even pick their own big girls beds or big boys beds.
At a certain age, children of both sexes may start to crave privacy. They want their own space to get changed, chat to their friends, and even, if you’re lucky, do their homework.
Similarly, the age gap between your children may start to cause problems, as the older sibling becomes frustrated with the younger one, and doesn’t want them interfering with their personal items, or interrupting them whilst they are trying to work.
Whilst some children never feel this need, if your children are starting to show desires towards privacy, then you should try to respect that.
For siblings of the opposite sex, sharing a room after a certain age can become highly embarrassing, especially as puberty hits. However, some may be more than happy to continue to share their space. In those scenarios, trust in your children to let you know when they are ready to have their own bedrooms.
If space is an issue, and you simply do not have the extra room to give each sibling their own bedroom, then try to create specified areas within their bedroom, essentially two bedrooms in one. You can use bookshelves or curtains to divide the room, and each child can decorate their own space how they wish. Explain to them that they must consider each other’s space, that everyone is entitled to privacy and that if one of them doesn’t want to be disturbed in their ‘bedroom’ they must respect that.