As our little ones grow up we very often help them transition from their cot into a new bed by letting them sleep in ours. However taking that final step of moving them from your bed into their own can often be the hardest. If you’ve got to the stage where your child is giving you restless nights, you want more quality time with your partner, or you just think they’ve reached the right age, here are some tips for helping them move into their own bedroom.
Many people underestimate the emotional intelligence of children but simply sitting down and having a chat can often be the best way to get them used to a change. Making them feel like a grown up who has been involved in making the decision should help to avoid tears and tantrums later.
Make the new bed a fun place to be
One easy way to get children to want to snuggle up in a new bed is to make it an even more fun and cosy place to be than your own bed. Get them a personalised bed, theme bed, or add towers, tents, caves – anything to encourage the idea that this is somewhere they’ll to forward to snuggle into at bedtime.
Start out easy
Since this is the first time your little one will be sleeping on their own, you might find that your worrying is as much a problem as theirs. To make sure you don’t lose out on any sleep, start out with a low and safe toddler bed or a bed with built-in safety rails for your own peace of mind.
Keep up the routine
Before you decide that your child needs to move into their own room, make sure that they have a consistent bedtime routine. When the time comes for them to make the move, stick to your normal routine to give them a sense of normalcy and security.
Praise positive steps
Helping a child learn to sleep on their own is never easy and there’s a big chance you might have to deal with fears, tears, and everything in between. Try to be understanding but firm in your choices. You can sit with them until they’re asleep initially but make sure to gradually move further away (to a chair or the doorway, for example), until they’re used to sleeping without you. Most importantly, praise any steps they make towards sleeping on their own. Even if they don’t get there straight away, helping them feel like they’re on the right track is a much more productive way to achieve your goals than by disciplining them.
And there you have it. You’ll be back to restful nights before you know it.