Parenting children is a pretty serious business – we all want to get it right so that our children grow up to become members of society who can make a positive contribution to the world in which they live. Parenting styles change over time and modern parenting offers plenty of choices. There are old-fashioned, authoritarian parents, there are laissez-faire parents, there are hippy type parents and there are parents who are so determined that their children will succeed in life that it seems to affect everything they say and do. Times have changed since we were children and there is much more information available to parents nowadays.
When we first become parents, it’s natural that we look back on our own childhood and the way in which we were brought up by our own parents. Our parents probably did the best they could and got some things right and some things wrong (as we will do ourselves, no doubt). Most of us will be able to use this opportunity to learn from our own parents, taking on board the methods that we feel have had a positive effect and avoiding things that we feel were not particularly helpful.
Nowadays, there are five main styles of parenting:
Most of us will probably choose a mix up of two or more of these parenting styles, which can be a great idea. While there is no definite right or wrong way to be a parent, the way in which we bring up our children determines the type of adults they will become. Those of us who are happy with the way in which we were brought up are far more likely to follow in our own parents footsteps when it comes to child rearing.